Giving and Receiving Feedback, 28 June

GIVING FEEDBACK

What do we know about effective feedback? Non-effective feedback? ( Think pair share)
How often are you giving feedback to each other? In what situations? Opportunities? ( Think pair share)
Visualise someone you know who has a strength in giving feedback? What do you see, hear, feel?
What do we know about RECEIVING FEEDBACK?
What stops us from being able to receive feedback well?

DIGGING FOR PONIES

3 Triggers That Block Feedback:

Truth Triggers- if we think it’s somehow off, unhelpful or simply untrue= we feel wronged, indignant
Relationship Triggers- all feedback is coloured by the relationship- our focus shifts from the feedback to the audacity of the person giving it!
Identity Triggers- focus neither on the feedback or on the person giving it- they are all about US. Something about the feedback has caused our identity, our sense of who we are, to come undone- we question ourselves, are unsure of ourselves
These triggers are obstacles because they prevent us from engaging skilfully in the conversation

Receiving feedback well is a process of sorting and filtering- of learning how the other person sees things, of growth.
During an effective conversation- the feedback giver may also grow, learn to see what/ why/if their feedback is unfair, not quite accurate.
We can’t do any of that from inside our triggers!
When your coaching partner is giving you feedback against the habits- listen to your internal voice...is there a pattern? This will be preventing you from growth…..

Is it

T: “ That’s wrong, that’s not helpful, that’s not me!”
R: “ Who are you to say! You can’t do any better!”
I: “ I’m useless at this! I’m doomed with this !”

Of course there are so many good things about feedback- in this session useas an opportunity for growth as the provider and the receiver! Dig for ponies!

Also- give yourself a self assessment / 10 as how effective the feedback was and how well you received it.