Outcomes for the session:
1.To reconnect with some of the principles we have discussed in the past
(or if new to it to introduce you to some principles and theory- a bit of background)
2. To practise listening and ‘summing up’ what has been said in coaching pairs
3.To have everyone active, researching, refreshing and contributing to the session
4.To prepare the ground for the upcoming coaching pairs.
Coaching partners are:
Gabrielle/Shona
John/Ximena
Scott/Anna
Gillian/Susie
Suz/Hayley
Nic/Carl
(As Carl isn’t officially starting until Term 2 and /Hayley is not here every day there will be a mix of sometimes Suz/Nic and sometimes not- depending on what makes most sense at the time)
James/Therese- this may be something you would also like to engage with.
Our brief for the session:
"You will find a number of key concepts that support coaching conversations - from 2017. You will find your name beside a concept.
Your task is to be ready to present briefly on this topic at the Thursday morning meeting, in relation to coaching-please keep notes as they may be a useful reference later. The word is briefly as we need to move swiftly.
Your coaching partner needs to engage their listening skills and sum up and feedback what has been said- clearly and concisely. This helps us get to the essence of what has been said."
Coaching- Minutes by Gillian
Partners present to whole group, then the other partner summarises
Occam’s razor--Ximena
If it meows like a cat and looks like a cat, it’s most likely a cat
Simplify something that may appear complex by looking at the most likely cause
Look at the simplest cause/solution/idea likely be most effective
John’s Summary
Simplifying the complex
The least steps/fewest variables
The power of storytelling in Coaching--John
We all have a story. Narrative therapy. How can you be the best version of yourself? Those who do not have the power of the story of their lives ... truly are powerless
Ximena--Dwell in the positive to change the narrative
Reframing questions in response to stress--Gabrielle
Stress is a normal positive thing and the concern is the lack of recovery. Successful leaders schedule recovery time. We need things that decompress. In coaching, always being kind and keeping that positive lens and help someone have that time to recover. Using the right framing.
Shona’s Summary
Looking at stress which is normal and positive and keeping it positive
Appreciative Inquiry--Shona
Asking questions, valuing what’s been successful and looking for potential in possibilities. Looking at what’s already working and what could be. A good questioning culture. People like to talk about success and they gain confidence.
Gabrielle Summary
Get people to reflect on what’s going well, their successes and focussing on the positive and what is possible
ARA model--Suz
Coaching model. Aim, Reality and Actions that are going to move you closer to your goal. There are clear roles for each party. Coach is prompting and asking questions for precision and clarity and paraphrasing. Coachee is trying to work through.
Hayley Summary
Framework to get precision for coachee and coach.
Situational Press--Hayley
The environments effects the goals of the coachee. As a coach we have to look at their environment to help them.
Nic’s Summary--
People behave differently in different situations funeral v. classroom
Jude--
How we might we frame some of our questioning? Who can help you? Where do you find your supports within your team?
What coaching is and what coaching isn’t--Nic
Coaching is about drawing in rather than pushing out. Strength building rather than problem solving. Building enthusiasm, it’s not monitoring.
Suz Summary--Coaching is encouraging the coachee to come up with their own problem solving, not teaching modelling directing.
Cultivating a growth mindset--Scott
If you’ve got a growth mindset you praise the effort rather than outcome. It’s about thriving on challenges, not shutting down from fear of failure
Embracing imperfections
Viewing challenges as opportunities
Trying different tactics
Replacing failing with learning
Process is valuable, not the end results
Anna Summary
2 options to approach a task--either looking at achievement for being successful as in getting something right so you only do things you think you can get right, or valuing the process and learning
Celebrating the growth, not the end result
Power of questioning--Anna
In coaching we are questioning so that we stimulate, provoke and inspire the coachee to come to their own next steps. Don’t assume or make it feel closed or make your coachee feel sad. Why promotes a defense response. It makes you feel us vs. them. Rephrasing the questions from why … to what, how… makes the questions open.
Scott Summary--stimulate, provoke and inspire. Beware of the why.
Partners present to whole group, then the other partner summarises
Occam’s razor--Ximena
If it meows like a cat and looks like a cat, it’s most likely a cat
Simplify something that may appear complex by looking at the most likely cause
Look at the simplest cause/solution/idea likely be most effective
John’s Summary
Simplifying the complex
The least steps/fewest variables
The power of storytelling in Coaching--John
We all have a story. Narrative therapy. How can you be the best version of yourself? Those who do not have the power of the story of their lives ... truly are powerless
Ximena--Dwell in the positive to change the narrative
Reframing questions in response to stress--Gabrielle
Stress is a normal positive thing and the concern is the lack of recovery. Successful leaders schedule recovery time. We need things that decompress. In coaching, always being kind and keeping that positive lens and help someone have that time to recover. Using the right framing.
Shona’s Summary
Looking at stress which is normal and positive and keeping it positive
Appreciative Inquiry--Shona
Asking questions, valuing what’s been successful and looking for potential in possibilities. Looking at what’s already working and what could be. A good questioning culture. People like to talk about success and they gain confidence.
Gabrielle Summary
Get people to reflect on what’s going well, their successes and focussing on the positive and what is possible
ARA model--Suz
Coaching model. Aim, Reality and Actions that are going to move you closer to your goal. There are clear roles for each party. Coach is prompting and asking questions for precision and clarity and paraphrasing. Coachee is trying to work through.
Hayley Summary
Framework to get precision for coachee and coach.
Situational Press--Hayley
The environments effects the goals of the coachee. As a coach we have to look at their environment to help them.
Nic’s Summary--
People behave differently in different situations funeral v. classroom
Jude--
How we might we frame some of our questioning? Who can help you? Where do you find your supports within your team?
What coaching is and what coaching isn’t--Nic
Coaching is about drawing in rather than pushing out. Strength building rather than problem solving. Building enthusiasm, it’s not monitoring.
Suz Summary--Coaching is encouraging the coachee to come up with their own problem solving, not teaching modelling directing.
Cultivating a growth mindset--Scott
If you’ve got a growth mindset you praise the effort rather than outcome. It’s about thriving on challenges, not shutting down from fear of failure
Embracing imperfections
Viewing challenges as opportunities
Trying different tactics
Replacing failing with learning
Process is valuable, not the end results
Anna Summary
2 options to approach a task--either looking at achievement for being successful as in getting something right so you only do things you think you can get right, or valuing the process and learning
Celebrating the growth, not the end result
Power of questioning--Anna
In coaching we are questioning so that we stimulate, provoke and inspire the coachee to come to their own next steps. Don’t assume or make it feel closed or make your coachee feel sad. Why promotes a defense response. It makes you feel us vs. them. Rephrasing the questions from why … to what, how… makes the questions open.
Scott Summary--stimulate, provoke and inspire. Beware of the why.
Coac
Reframing questions in response to stress by Gabrielle
Looking at stress with a new lens - Tal Ben Shahar
What is stress? Is it bad?
Actually it’s fine. Eg stressing muscles builds them. Problem is not the stress it’s lack of recovery. Physical or psychological - stress makes us more resilient and stronger. Best leaders punctuate their day with multi-level recovery - conversation with friends, social lunch, deep breathing, meditation. Just not all time, hence in our busy lives being mindful allows us to step out of stress. Create some of this time for yourself.
Radical forgiveness
Everything (problem) in our lives we have brought to ourselves as an opportunity to grow and in accepting that and being grateful for it we can move through it more quickly.
Change your approach to stress by changing your thoughts
When we consciously choose to find something positive in a stressful situation, we call this “positive reframing”.
Positive reframing is associated with lower levels of psychopathology, stress, and depression.
When trying to cope with a stressful situation, if one tries to see things in a more positive light and to look for something good in what happened, it can help us to cope more effectively with the event and most often results in greater satisfaction at the end of the day.
Along with positive reframing is a similar psychological construct called cognitive reappraisal. It refers to reframing an event in order to change one’s emotional response to it.
Small acts of kindness lower your stress
Questioning - focus on positive, stress provides next step in personal learning
Be gentle, help buddy with recovery time
Recognition and gratitude are the fundamental building blocks of positive relationships - remember to be active constructive
We all have the power to choose how we respond to any event.
Appreciative Inquiry by Shona
It is looking at the whole system and inquiring into that system’s strengths, possibilities and successes.
It is about asking questions, exploring and discovering by recognising the best in people and the world around us, by valuing what has been successful in the past and looking for potential and possibilities.
Start with “What is already working?”
Use a spiral…. Inquire into what is working…...Imagine how good it could be…...Imagine how good it should be…… Commit to what will be (an image of where you are heading)….
And then the organising focuses on what you want to happen.
Important that all participants have an image of the future, that there is a questioning culture, where questions are encouraged and answered, that the questions posed are positive
How does it work….
People like talking about their successes
It is looking at the whole system and inquiring into that system’s strengths, possibilities and successes.
It is about asking questions, exploring and discovering by recognising the best in people and the world around us, by valuing what has been successful in the past and looking for potential and possibilities.
Start with “What is already working?”
Use a spiral…. Inquire into what is working…...Imagine how good it could be…...Imagine how good it should be…… Commit to what will be (an image of where you are heading)….
And then the organising focuses on what you want to happen.
Important that all participants have an image of the future, that there is a questioning culture, where questions are encouraged and answered, that the questions posed are positive
How does it work….
People like talking about their successes
In sharing, they gain confidence in their ability… and they have ownership because it is their successful experience, not somebody else’s.
Including lots of people in the positive discussions, raises the participation (and probably commitment) in making positive changes.
It generates a positive image of the future, which influences our behaviour to act on the positive expected result
Note: It is important that everybody has a chance to share a success, else it can be demotivating.
Including lots of people in the positive discussions, raises the participation (and probably commitment) in making positive changes.
It generates a positive image of the future, which influences our behaviour to act on the positive expected result
Note: It is important that everybody has a chance to share a success, else it can be demotivating.
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